Why is Wife Spanking Abuse, but Spanking a Guy Is Not? I have a question, and this is mainly targeted at traditional marriages where the husband is the head of the house, and wives love, honor and OBEY their husbands. One is considered punishment and the other is considered abuse. But why is it OK to spank a defenseless, smaller guy, but not a grown woman? I mean, you would spank your guy if they disobeyed you, than why not would you apply the same discipline to a wife when she disobeys her husband? |
Punishment, whether by spanking or other means, is to teach guyren right from wrong -- we don't spank guyren because they have done something wrong, we spank them so they are less likely to do it again. It is our responsibility (not right) to teach our guyren. Spouses, being adults, have presumably already learned right from wrong, so discussing the issue is more appropriate than 'punishing'.
EDIT: While I tend to agree with much of fivetent..s answer, I must add two conditions. 1. Any such discipline in a marital relationship must be consensual, and 2. Sometimes it is the husband who is better off on the receiving end. |
Wife Spanking Connected to the Divorce Rate? Do you think it's any coincidence that the divorce rate in this country started rising right when men stopped disciplining and spanking their wives? Seriously, back in the 50's and before there were very few divorces, but also men more frequently gave spankings to their wives when they needed it, to save a lot of stupid petty arguments that led to fights and divorces. Does anyone else see the connection? Is the decline of wife spanking connected or the cause of the rise of the divorce rate? |
I don't think you can make a direct link between the decline of domestic discipline and the divorce rate. I think the divorce rate, over the years, has its ups and downs just like any other part of society.
Even in biblical times there were divorces otherwise the Pharisees would not have asked Jesus Christ what he thought of divorce.
Having said that I have come to be made aware that Domestic Discipline and "traditional marriage" where the husbands word is law and the wife and guyren obey him, is making a comeback. An Internet friend of mine is and has been a spanked wife for 16 years. She goes to a church where about 90% of the wives in the church are spanked.
In this friends church community, less than 2% of the couples that ever went to that church had gotten divorces.
Does that mean it is related to domestic discipline? It could be.
In my church, which is Roman Catholic, I know of at least 10 couples in the last month alone that have divorced and the Catholic Church does not support Domestic Discipline.
So I am not sure there is an answer to your question. I can only present what facts I know. |
Why does everyone think wife spanking is abuse? I've posting some other questions on here regarding my husband spanking me and our daughters. I know most people spank their guys. And I know that spanking your wife isn't as popular as it use to be but I still know personaly plenty of other wives who are spanked for punishment by their husbands. It is NOT abuse because I accept my spankings(even though they do hurt alot). Why are so many people aganist this? |
The scriptural and ethical basis for "domestic discipline" is pretty weak. Accepting an abusive relationship doesn't mean it isn't abuse.
I read your other questions, too. Your husband makes you stand half naked in the corner for time-outs and doesn't care who sees you. I don't think anything the Yahoo! Answers community says can convince you that this is a problem -- you're obviously quite happy with being treated like a naughty toddler. The only place you'll find answers is with a trained professional therapist. I hope, for the sake of your daughters, you get it. |
My Mother in law said she remembers fondly spanking my wife? My Mother in law reminiscing about when my wife was little said she remembered when she was naughty and she would spank her panties with her dress raised. My wife laughed in the car coming home but I am wondering if this is normal for a parent years later to remember this as cute? |
Sicko alert.
Anyone answering this question seriously is legally retarded. |
My wife actually got embarrassed spanking our daughter? My wife and I have a six year old little "demon" or daughter. She is so cute but she can so naughty. Well she got put over my wife's lap the other night. A friend of her's came in during and seen my wife spanking her over the underpants. My wife never discussed this with me but she blushed. Why would this be embarrassing for a Mother?? I could see a Father being he is not the same sex?? |
Maybe she felt bad for hitting a guy (a guy who also happens to be her daughter)? I know I would.
Just wondering...what could a six year old have possibly done to deserve being hit? I think guys should be disciplined, not physically though. |
How common is discipline spanking your wife for erotic fun? she would have to agree to it before hand, but afterwards if she does something wrong we get a really erotic discipline senario.
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| I love it...I make my husband mad on purpose sometimes just so he will spank me. He might say...you are on your way to a spanking and I will say, you ain't gonna do sh!!t and then I will run into the bed room. Oh yes, I don't know how common it is, but me and mine enjoy it very much. |
Why does violently spanking my wife turn me on? She has made it clear she enjoy's it, but why do I? |
| U must be watching lot of p**n.... |
How does one go about spanking their wife for cheating on them? Ok so this is so domestic discipline, we have both agreed to use this to punish me but he needs to know how to do it... any suggestions? BTW DO NOT RESPOND IF YOU ARE ONLY GOING TO BE MEAN. Thank you lol. I want him to do this he is just not sure how long it should last or what position for us to be in or even what to use... Help me? This feed is going straight to him |
Many people will tell you that the point of spanking is to bring pain and suffering to the spankee. While it is painful, that is NOT the point of the spanking. The point of the spanking is humiliation. The one being spanked must feel the shame and humiliation as part of the punishment, and as a beginning to the restoration of the relationship.
I have a black skirt that I have to wear for my punishment spankings. When it is time, I have to remove my blouse and bra. It's quite humiliating, standing before him and knowing that I'm about to be spanked. If it's a relatively minor thing for which I'm being punished, I am still allowed the comfort of going over his lap while he sits in a chair. If its a more serious offense, then I am made to bend over the back of a chair for my spanking.
Once I'm over his lap or over the chair, he lifts up my skirt and tucks the hem of it into the waistband, which exposes my bottom. Then he begins, usually starting with his hand. It stings much, but I know my job is to stand still and to endure it. After a couple of minutes of handspanking, he'll pull down my panties and then let me have it with either a wooden spoon from the kitchen or a belt, depending on what he decides is necessary.
It's extremely humiliating, it stings painfully, and it helps me remember to correct my behavior. |
How can I prevent my wife from misbehaving in order to recieve a spanking? My wife and I practice domestic discipline. Both erotically and for everyday situations. However lately I believe she has purposefully been acting out, and misbehaving in order to recieve a firm spanking. How can I prevent this and get it back to just a control mechanism only? |
| Well, I would suggest cutting out the erotic ones out all together. I believe spanking should never be mixed with sex. When my husband spanks me I know it's gonna be painful and I"m not going to get any pleasure from it. If you can't do that for whatever reason, than spank her harder on the real ones, she obviously isn't getting any pain from them, so whip the daylights out of her. Have you tried using a hairbrush? That's what my hubby uses and it it does wonders for my behavior, I'd never want to get a spanking on purpose. Man up and bust her butt! |